Why People Want to Judge


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At some point you’ll need to face up to the fact that people want to judge you.  Regardless of all the talk about being non-judgmental, I find that people who complain about judgmental people tend to be a little more condemning than everyone else.  “Judgment” is different from disagreement: it’s one thing to say I think you’re wrong about this, and here’s why…  It’s another to say “you’re weird,” or “you’re a jerk,” or even “you’re judgmental” because the latter implies that you can never be anything else.  The truth is, we can all be jerks, we can all be stupid, and judgmental, but that doesn’t mean we’re like that all the time.

So why do people want to do this to you?  Because it makes them feel good.  The only thing more satisfying, that gives you a sense of clarity and purpose more than a friend, is an enemy.  There will be times when people want to believe you’re stupid or evil.  Why?  Sometimes it’s because people don’t understand: people like to hate things they don’t understand, different cultures, new ideas, etc.  Sometimes it’s because they feel bad about themselves and so it makes them feel better to judge other people.  The act of “judging” means you are elevated over the person you’re judging…  The Christian story is not that God judges Man, but that Man judges God.  When people say “I can’t understand why God would allow that, therefore God is wrong, or does not exist” says a lot about us, and nothing at all about God.  Jesus, living in the image and character of God was hated and killed.

So what can we do about it?  What I want you to see is there are ONLY two choices…  There’s no third option.  : [1] you can judge the judgers, and as a result become part of the problem, or [2] you can follow God in loving those who set themselves up as your enemies.

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